Death Is ....

Everyone knows that death is inevitable, but you don't dwell much on it (or maybe you do). The concept of death is as complicated as the concept of living, in that you are accustomed to seeing and talking to someone every day or week, but it doesn't cross your mind that this could be the last time. Recently my family and I have gone through a personal loss and even though it's been a week or so since my Great Grandmother has died, its hitting everyone one differently at different times. So this isn't going to be about how short life is or how you should live for the moment or sharing family memories. No, this is me sharing my ramblings/reflections on death. So...

Death is weird, in regards to dealing with the outcome of it, its.... weird. The emotion that comes through after one has died is confusing. Whether its a family member, a friend or someone you knew through passing, it's a confusing time, in that you're not quite sure on how to deal. Depending on your relationship with the deceased your mourning is your own.

Death is a time for reflection. It's a time to re-evaluate who you are as a person. During this period of grief, you begin to reflect on your relationship with that person which in turn makes you see how your relationship with others is. it's a time where so many questions and thoughts arise that you wouldn't normally think of.

The one thing that sticks in mind about death is the question of "is that it?" Your friend, a family member, a loved one; they're gone and that's it. The world didn't stop. Your world didn't stop. It continues and your mind can't fathom it. Won't fathom it. So what do you do? How does one deal with someone's death? Its cliche, but you process it, you accept it and you move on. It's harsh and it looks distancing, but the longer you visualize it as "shit, they're gone" the harder it is for you to move forward. Instead, see the positive. You spent so many good memories with this person. You learned, you laughed, you vexed. Let those memories live on in the relationship with others.